So my boss and I get along fairly well and talk about pretty much everything.  She's a great person and helps out alot of people.  She is def an inspiration.  That being said she messaged me this morning asking if I was leaving at the end of May,  I told her no I thought June.  She tells me that's what she thought but then explains she had a visitor in work last night talking bad about me.  

Apparently I will do anything to get off work so that my husband can take care of me and that I haven't had a full time job since we got together.  And that she thought it was funny that I used to apparently get migraines but now I'm ok. That I will leave my boss high and dry and a load of other crap.  Including that she thought I should stay home and clean my house.  While having someone say this about me obviously upsets me what I think bothers me the most is that she did so to my boss.  I know my boss took it as gossip from a jealous person but really? My life is my life and my business noone else's unless I choose to make it so.  And while I hate the idea of defending myself let me just go through her points because it will make me feel a little better.

Firstly my husband is a fantastic person and I love him more everyday I can't express that enough.  When we met I was having some serious health problems that affected my ability to work,  I was still working but only part time.  I have a condition called hydro-cephalus (sp) that can increase pressure in my skull that can result in migraines and other nasty things.  I also drew the short straw on some other health issues,  I have arthritis in my lower back and an ongoing condition with my knees/hips that most women in my family have.  My husband knew that there may be problems and even told me if I couldn't work that was ok with him, but I like working I don't like to sit at home and do nothing I'm pretty sure I would go crazy.  So I work, two of my jobs that I have had since we got together were classified as part time but had hours closer to full time.  My other jobs have been part time as that was all I  could find and also all my husband wanted me to work.  But I often had 2 jobs at a time so I had full time hours.  I have quit jobs in that time one due to injury, one to moving and 2 because they treated me like a number and my DH told me to quit because he didn't like it.  I have only taken time off work when my DH has asked me too such as for our honey moon.  And at my current job I think in the almost 2 years I have been there I have called in sick twice maybe three times for migraines and been late maybe twice always because my car broke.  I have been working and volunteering since I was 6 years old I don't plan on stopping.

My migraines? well I still get those, not near as often thanks to medicine that prevents them and took about 2 years to find.  I'm not on it now due to being pregnant so I'm guessing being pregnant is helping somehow though I still have gotten a few.  As for my back and knees I've had those for pretty much most of my life and I always just push through the pain and thats what I'm doing now.  My boss and I have already discussed my leave we have a tentative date middle of june. And the ad to find someone to replace me has been posted.  They have been nothing but kind to me and so I would never do anything to jeopardize their business or their opinion of me.   

Lastly on my house? it's clean lol I mean its cluttered all to hell what with baby on the way and gifts and the nursery not done? everything kind of just gets everywhere, but I sweep, mop, do dishes and laundry on a regular basis so I dunno what to say there.  I'm not perfect and I'd be the first one to admit that, but I try.  

DH and I have talked about whether I will return to work and it's still up in the air but its our life and our child and we would both prefer if we raised her not someone else.  I work hard and don't take advantage of the system, help others when I can and try to support my community why does that make me a bad person?  What did I do to deserve this bad mouthing? 

Anyway thanks for listening, I feel a little better now.

Have a great day,

Brandi